The stomach ache comes when you see some other couple in the “new” phase of their relationship and you realize that you are so far from the passion and fizzle. Ugh! It’s the worst. And then it gets even worse because your self esteem plummets. You get all worried that something is wrong with you because your boyfriend isn’t chasing you down and getting all excited over you like he did in the beginning.

So, sometimes you get your advice on relationships from parents or friends that tell you to start doing more. Like – start calling him more and doing all of these nice things for him. And this seems pretty logical, but I have to tell you – this is the WORST thing you can do.

I tried all that stuff before. Like – oh, let me write him this big long letter and buy him gifts and feed his dog. Let me SHOW him how much he means to me and then he’ll be all over me again.

Um, yeah, that didn’t work at all. In fact, it pushed him away.

So, it was time to find advice on relationships that actually worked.

So, I read a bunch of stuff and most of the articles I found gave lame advice, much like the advice on relationships you should NOT take. And then I finally found Christian Carter, who is like a God. Not only is he hot! But, he really knows how women work and especially how a man works. So, he lays it all out in the clearest way, what TO Do and what NOT to do. A lot of it made so much sense and some of it was surprising but in looking back at how you first fall in love and the reasons the beginning is so fresh and new and exciting – it makes total sense. You can actually feel that way throughout your whole relationship and he gives you advice on relationships to keep it going and to make it the type of lasting attraction that just grows deeper.

His advice on relationships just happens to seep right into your life as a whole. Your self-esteem and confidence totally soars.

Check him out here:

A friend of mine once told me that it didn’t matter how much damage was done in a relationship. It didn’t matter what you did to make yourself look completely desperate. Or what a man did. That if there was initial attraction at some point, it can be brought back. And once you bring it back – you can do a whole lot more to make the relationship work.

I was intrigued and this and after totally brushing it off, it took me yet another heartbreak in dating to finally realize that I should listen to something. This is how I started my addiction to Christian Carter and his advice on relationships, dating, commitment and pretty much everything that comes to dating. Now, I will be honest, this guy is completely gorgeous so it doesn’t hurt to listen to him or watch him and I’m sure this is a big part of how he became such a guru in the dating world. A lot of the stuff went completely against what I thought to be true, but then again that stuff wasn’t really working for me, so I did have to change some of my thinking. If you are dead set on your beliefs then you maybe don’t bother reading or watching his advice on relationships. I don’t mean that harshly, but I think you should really have an open mind if you if you read just one of his books or watch one series of his dvd’s. You will see some things that go against all the past advice you had once been given. You may not like it and if so, let me know your thoughts. But, I am still hooked on it.

Anyway, you can find it here. He talks about it much better than I do!

I am a young divorcee. After the worst heartbreak I thought I would never heal from, I dove right back into dating. I was so eager to learn and have a happy, fulfilling relationship that I became intrigued with all the advice on relationships that I could get. The best advice on relationships came from here:

But, there were many resources and I learned a lot. Some of the stuff down below was my favorite because it really makes sense.

The most valuable advice on relationships that I learned and offer to my friends is the work I did on myself. I had to look at myself before I put the blame on others and this improved my life not only in relationships with men, but I my life as a whole. It’s one word – empowering. It’s the best feeling ever and it literally makes a man addicted to you.

Check out the 50 Worldwide Brutal Facts About Men:

1. I already told you I loved you, why do I have to say all the time?
2. I will do anything to have sex. I’ll even commit to you for life.
3. I hate arguing. I would much rather find a resolution.
4. I really like long hair. Sorry, but it’s true.
5. I can’t help but listen to you when you speak softly.
6. You should tell me “no” sometimes to remind me that you are valuable and expensive.
7. If you are going to ask me how you look, be ready for my answer.
8. When you’re mad at me, I will look at other women that much more.
9. When you’re happy with me, I want to please you so much more.
10. I don’t feel like a man, if I can’t make you happy.
11. I want you to be ready to go when I pick you up.
12. Smoking is unattractive and makes women look cheap.
13. If you can’t put me in my place when I deserve it, then I don’t think you are strong enough for me to open up when I am upset.
14. If you sit next to me quietly after cooking a meal for me, I can forgive you for anything.
15. If you hurt me and I never bring it up, it means I’m thinking about leaving you.
16. I am not a woman and I cannot read your mind.
17. You know how to dress well, but remember to dress for me and not other women.
18. Don’t joke about my receding hairline. Do you want me to make fun of your thighs?
19. Please don’t act bored when I talk about sports. Remember all the times I listened to you gossip or what’s important to you.
20. I love her because she is easy to please and is grateful for all that I do to make her happy, even if I mess up sometimes.
21. When you wear a dress or skirt, it’s hot!
22. If I don’t ask for help, don’t tell me what to do. I don’t want you to be my mother.
23. If you stay overnight a lot, I will be less motivated to marry you.
24. When we have sex, my ears are just as sensitive as your skin is when I touch you.
25. If I see you across the room, you need to give me some sort of signal so that I know it is ok to approach you.
26. When you ask for my advice it makes me feel good. It makes me feel like you trust me.
27. I don’t like when you try to be in charge. It feels like a competition.
28. I would much rather be respected than loved.
29. Take care of yourself, please. I like it when every man is envious of me because I am with you.
30. The way you say something is much more important than what you are saying when I feel upset.
31. Don’t minimize my compliments. It makes me not want to give them anymore.
32. I am not as confident as you think. I am actually more insecure. This is why I need your respect s much.
33. I’m not always sure how I feel, that’s why I don’t talk about my feelings that much.
34. I might do one thing and say something different, but my actions are indicative of what is in my heart.
35. Just smile at me. It makes me want to please you more than when you ask.
36. Please don’t talk about your exes. I really don’t want to know. No matter what we are talking about.
37. When I don’t share what I am thinking, it’s because I’m pretty sure you won’t listen.
38. Just tell me when something is wrong. I hate having to guess and I would rather just fix it.
39. I really dig it when your hair is in a pony tail.
40. If I am already dressed, don’t ask me if I am going to wear it.
41. Don’t ever disrespect me in public.
42. It doesn’t matter how many times I tell you you’re pretty, if you don’t believe it yourself.
43. I don’t care what you weigh. What’s sexy is that you are proportionate.
44. I have weird sexual thoughts sometimes and I don’t really want to share them with anyone.
45. Sometimes you really wouldn’t want to know what I am thinking at all.
46. If you cheat on me, it’s pretty impossible for me to ever get over it.
47. I might not remember everything, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t care about you and love you.
48. When I get upset, I need time to calm down so that I don’t say something that I would regret.
49. You don’t need to do things for me. I like to be able to please you.
50. I’m really scared that if I let you in, you will hurt me or take advantage of me.

What do you think? Ok, so it’s not exact advice on relationships, but it totally gives some insight into men and how they think. Some of it might not be surprising, but some of it totally wowed me.

More advice to come….